After a painful breakup, many women believe they’ll never find love again. But for 48-year-old web designer Barbarella Buchner, finding another man after her seven-year relationship ended has been the last thing on her mind – because she believes she’s found happiness, companionship and emotional fulfilment with… her cats.
Incredible as it sounds, Barbarella thinks she’s found not one, but two soulmates in the form of her male moggies, Spider and Lugosi. Her devotion to them is so strong that 10 years ago she even married them in an online ceremony.
"They’re the loves of my life," she claims. "I have no regrets and I don’t care what people say."
Cat-mad Barbarella has always been an animal lover. "As a child I was surrounded by cats," she says. "Our family regularly owned at least one or two. They were my favourite animal.
At 34, Barbarella finally got the chance to adopt her own cats, and she took the opportunity very seriously.
"For me, it was like when you know you’re having a baby," she says. "Before you have a baby or adopt a child, you look on the internet to learn as much as possible and read lots of books. That’s what I did before I got my cats."
In March 2000, Barbarella adopted two eight-month-old tabby cats from the same litter at an East London animal shelter.
"It was love at first sight when I laid eyes on my boys, Lugosi and Spider," she recalls. "I’ll never forget that day. They were rubbing against the cage and purring.
"I knew I wanted those cats… I could tell the feeling of love was mutual judging by their purrs and the way they were brushing their little faces against the bars. That was it; they were coming home with me!"
Barbarella – who now lives in Lanzarote – has had a few long-term relationships with men, but never wanted to marry.
She explains, "I didn’t know if I had it in me to be a wife. Some women are built to clean up after their men, and I’m not like that. But I never minded being my cats’ servants. I’m not a submissive person but I’ll do anything for Lugosi and Spider."
Barbarella says the cats were a comfort to her after her most serious relationship with her boyfriend of seven years broke down.
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